‘Ignorance is bliss’, certainly the key phrase I learn thoroughout motherhood!
By posting my thoughts and our daily activities, it would also mean that we are prone to be evaluated. I do receive feedback and comments, in ways which could be annoying or understanding things at surface level. Many times I choose to ignore (not that I am NOT aware of those happenings)! Like it or not, whether we do A or B, people will HAVE something to say! And some might even scrutinise us – worse, without reflecting on themselves!
This is what I have learn throughout this 4 years plus. People who want to understand, will understand. And those who don’t, won’t. So why bother? Just let the latter continue to stand on their own podium to ‘preach’ like they know all, who know “they really do”. Plus if the persons have every intention to provoke for responses (insults are the most difficult to swallow)- the more we/I have to keep calm! This is difficult, of course – especially if it happens “first thing in the morning” and you/I will be thinking “how this person wants to ruin my day”!
Just be calm. The first few minutes to ignoring is difficult. But as the hours (and days) go by, it will be easier!
P/S: But I am certainly happy that some friends will, at times, stand up for me, even if I don’t. Some even messaged me on how ridiculous people are, and wish I could block those people off! 😅😅
Today I spent almost the whole day fixing this shoe rack (intended to put their toys)! Also today is my ‘rest’ day, having spent the past few days cleaning around the home.
This is really the most lousy cheapo stuff from Lazada ever! 😒😪🙄🤦🏻♀️. It has been an ‘annoyance’ since the day it arrived! 🤣 I think we were ‘better off’ using the recyclable boxes as storage boxes!
I could give up easily and hubby even said that we can get a better, new one! BUT, if I do so (not because of ‘maruah) it is more like telling my kids I am giving up easily! 🙄🙄🙄
There’s a ‘price’ for not giving up easily! 🤣 time wastage and frustration, of course!
They know I am annoyed by the rack. When I found that the rack came out again this morning, Noelle ‘cleverly’ pointed it to Nikki – indicating Nikki’s fault! 🙄🙄 Then when I was fixing it, Noelle requested to watch YouTube, which I rejected. Instead of ‘whining’, she obediently just played with her toys (because she knows she will get m16 from me if she does whine)! When she played with some of her jingsaw puzzles; she was annoyed that she can’t fix it and asked me for help – I looked at her and asked ‘how about me? 😒😒 who is helping me with this?’ That completely shut her! 🤐🤐🤣🤣 Nikki who was rampaging around the toys, also made u-turns seeing my frustrated face! And it was finally done before lunch!
But not long after lunch, Nikki touched it and it came down again! 🤦🏻♀️😫😤😡😒 I was ‘mad’ but Nikki ‘calmed’ me down by taking out her palm – to ask me punish (whack) her hand! Her pure innocence just cracked me out! 🤣
Ding dong here and there – I finally managed to fix it when they were napping! I even hammered it and cellaphone taped it! It is stable for now; hopefully it will stay – or else, we are really get a new one!
It is simple to give up in the beginning – at least not much effort put in. It is more difficult to give up midway- for the effort put in. And the most difficult to give up towards the end. But the end result when it came out right – it is a really a sweet satisfaction!
So, will you ‘give up’ for less than RM20 item? 🤣
I am just a stay at home mum (sahm) with no income and limited savings. I don’t need to impress others and people won’t benefit anything from being my ‘followers’. This would also mean that friends I made come with no motive!
True friendship is limited but I can assure you that there are great people out there (unrelated to us) who give a helping hand/ advice without expecting anything in return! Sincerely thank these people for being here for us!
We have met fabulous people in my 3.5 years journey as sahm!
Sending positive vibes to all mummies, be it sahm or full time working mums!
I am on facebook to keep myself relevant. It can be quite lonely just being around the kids. I gave myself chance to make more friends (and yes i have growing number of friends compared to when I was working). i post updates to keep memories (and somehow it inspired some of you indirectly – sorry to say, it was never meant to be an inspiration😛 and on the other hand, i know it did somehow create some sense of competition – hence the “grimblings” or green eyes monsters).
But in the midst of all these, I am busy juggling with two kids (their activities, daily routines, etc), currently also in the stage of preparing for the new baby and i’m still battling morning sickness at night. All these – without any help (especially if my hubby has to come home late from work or has business dinners). And yet some still think I have time and leisure to gossip about them or coerce them to think/do alike (is like ‘for what’ – can it lighten my daily burden?). If you ever feel that, so ‘sorry’ about that – i have no time/energy to put up a battle. And a kind reminder that there is always the “unfriend” and “block” button if you think I am ‘stalking’ on you.
Never let negative people suck up your power! – Nicole Lee
Time reviews why certain people were critical about the choices i made.
I have learn to be so busy improving myself that I have no time to bother those who were critical of me or even for me to criticise others. Do not take my silence as defeat. I am thankful that I don’t have to hurt others for me to feel better about myself.
Yes, I could have made different choices in life but I did what I did. The key is I refuse to please others at the expense of my emotional well being!
I am not who I was. I have moved on. And that’s part of growing up/old!
One thing for sure is that I would continue to be self reliant to avoid being told that I am “indebted” to those people who gave out “that” little help!
We get to decide the ‘legacy’ we want to leave. We don’t have to stand by a ‘legacy’ that doesn’t fit into our own character and faith.
Some want to live in the past, some want to show their material world, some only know ‘eat, play, travel and sleep (making no contribution), some want to live in the game of ‘luck’, some want to remain as ‘shoe polisher’, some just want to be followers and so forth. We don’t have to be similar to them! We can be the changer – for our future.
Our life is the message to the world (especially to our own kids). Make sure its inspiring! – Create a legacy of impact!
You have got a story to write today!
Never feel bad for not being able to provide the best for your kids, as long as you have done your very best. Many successful (and humble) people are born through their experience with life imperfections. Teach them to work for what they want. Not all things should be easily given. It has no/less value that way.
Many a times when money/things come easily and effortlessly, it tends to build ‘ugly’ personality and arrogance (this is usually reflected by the words spoken, as they grow). Suppose your kids could gain everything in the whole world and lost their ‘soul’, was it worth it?
Wishlist of parents to kids (at least for us): stay humble, be kind and work hard
Our RM20 dinner for 4!
I bought this pomfret for less than RM9 at Hero supermarket (it was going out at 50% to clear stock). It still does look fresh and doesn’t have fishy smell! And so, I cooked it tonight! With the oil, onion, ginger and dash of liquid aminos (or soy sauce replacement), the fish dish could be RM9.50 in total.
I also bought this chicken thigh for about RM3.50. With some red dates, Angelica root, barley, wolfeberries and dash of sesame oil, the steamed chicken could be around RM4.
The long beans dish inspired by my dearest friend Apple Siew this week – and I was happy to find this homemade preserved radish in the market this morning – with tofu and some peanuts, it could probably be RM4.50.
Basmati rice and some leftover beetroot soup (not in pic) could cost RM2!
So, total comes to RM20 (approximately)!
I have not done such calculation for some time (reminiscing those days when I used to do so).
Why do I calculate today? I want to remind ‘some people’ that ‘cheap’ things can be of quality (for example: homecooked meals) too!
Yes, I do buy ‘cheap’ goods (be it food or books or clothes) – but I actually look for bargain buys and this does not mean no quality.
And having money does not buy you ‘class’ if one has the attitude of putting down others, intentionally or not! (Sadly, many a times these people come distinguished themselves as ‘family’). To people born with the silver spoon in their mouth, just a reminder that others who have worked hard for a living and spending frugally have more pride in life than you.
Sorry panjang lebar- I shall rest my case to have a peaceful evening with my family! ☺️☺️