Noelle: I want mama….😔😔😔😔 (as she was about to go school with papa)
Instead of me saying to her ‘what happened?’
I looked at hubby
Me: 😒😒😒What did you do to her?
– Noelle wants me to send her to school-
This started since last week. We actually talked to her and persuaded her enough yesterday night. She even agreed that papa will send her to school. She made a last minute u turn to her decision this morning.
Everyone’s day at my stake! 🙄 if I force her to go with hubby, she would probably cries and make myself worry. Papa will have a bad time dealing with this and maybe run late to work!
So, I agree to send her to school. Nikki is ever ready to go! And so we went! (Nikki in pyjamas while I just change my pants, grabbing Nikki’s breakfast along)
End result – Noelle left the car to school with a happy face and mama with a peace in mind. Papa didn’t have to be late for work – and luckily he did went off himself as he had last minute meeting to attend! Nikki gets to go for car ride. Norrah soothes herself to sleep as we drive home.
Guess I have an additional task and new routine on the weekday now!!
Play die me….
….since midnight. Nikki and Norrah taking turns to wake up for nursing. Then Noelle screaming in pain. Initially thought her tooth ache, but after giving her ice water, she realized is her ear drums again (but the left side this time). I gave her ibuprofen to soothe her. She slept back and woke again later to go to loo. Then she wanted mama to hug and Nikki wanted mama also- switched bed again!Ding dong I think I woke up more than 10 times yesterday.
She was ready to go school. But before hubby going off with her, she suddenly says she wants mama plus showing signs that her ear drum is pain again (at one point she even scared me off when she says she can’t hear me). I told her I will send her to paed at 9 am and drop her off to school if she is ok. Then I hurriedly shower myself and Nikki (Norrah was showered already). Noelle suddenly says she want to poo😰. She pooed while I get ready whatever we needed including snacks in car. After that we left for the paed. The paed only arrived at 930,examined her – lungs clear, no fever, no sore throat but only normal runny nose. He wanted to look at the left ear drum but was blocked by ear wax. He thought of digging it out (in the pic) but the ear wax was stuck onto the ear drums. Noelle screamed out and then cried on the point the paed stopped digging. He diagnosed it as ear infection and prescribed antibiotic. I fed Noelle the medication there itself as she still wanted to go school.
She did continue her baby/pity cry as we walked to the car. I calmed her by patting her back and hugging her. Nikki acted maturely by helping me carry the bottle of medication. It was still jam as we drove to her school. Noelle made a fuss that I forgotten to pass her a hanky. She wanted me to drive home to pick a hanky before driving her to school!😒it was a clear no and if I were to drive home then she won’t be going school today. I even suggested to her to take Norrah’s bib! 🙄She continued fussing around and I suddenly remembered that I did pack a hanky in her extra set of clothes to school. Thank God I did! So I dropped her to school where she looks very normal. I also informed the teacher about her ear drum pain! (Hubby actually called up the principal that Noelle will be entering school later than usual)
After this round of recovery, guess we need to bring her see a proper ear specialist!
Kids suicide cases nowadays scared me! Really! I even told my hubby few days ago!
The important message here is to be buddies with your kids –
“Talk to your kids about why they need to come to you if something is wrong. I talk to our kids about all of this, and they know that I would do anything to help them. I say it daily… “If you are ever feeling sad or left out about something and it becomes too big for you to handle easily, come to me.” <full article>
I can actually sense something not too right whenever Noelle says ‘I Duno’ when she previously could have said something else or gave me an affirmation ‘no or yes’! It happened last week – I manage to pursued her to tell me by saying ‘I trust you with taking care of Norrah and I hope you trust mama too!’ Soon, she just told me ‘what happened’ (not exposing what it is about because it is a ‘secret’ for us). But I am glad she trusted me (for now)…
And sometime ago some mummies relate to me how her kid was being accused by an adult; her instinct says trust her kid before blaming the kid – just because an (elderly) adult is telling her something else! That has inspired me to put faith in my girls! Always let the kids to give their explanation. This gives them faith in us! Respect the kid as much we want to be respected!
Our activity continues despite her going to school – loomband bracelet
1. Cookie Monster – this was a ‘hand me down’ toy which unfortunately our girls don’t enjoy Sesame Street; so we decided to pass it on! And to my surprise, there are really many Cookie Monster’s fans – this was reserved and taken away within 2 hours of my posting (on a weekday)!
2. We also gave away two porcelain dolls to a lady collector! These dolls hailed from France – I think; really unfortunate that we don’t know how to appreciate them! The lady collected from us this morning. We actually went down our condo to pass it to her – and Noelle passed it to the lady saying ‘these are for you!’
3. Panasonic wireless phone – I think we got this years back from subscription to unifi! We don’t use a landline at home. The lady who collected it from us (She says that she is replacing her malfunctioned phone with this) actually gave us oranges in return! 😊😊 We certainly didn’t expect this!
4. I gave away one good quality maternity panty to an expecting friend. We had it posted via snail mail yesterday!
Love grows by giving. Our girls are really learning to give without expecting! I remember those days when Noelle was so ‘protective’ of our things that she will say ‘no’ to our ‘giving away’ to anyone. Today Noelle and Nikki are cool about giving away! At times, they will ask ‘who’s this for?’; ‘where’s the people?’ (When I tell them the person that collected the giveaways left); ‘are you giving away this to Aunty?’ and even ‘what’s her name?’ (Referring to the person who came).
And we don’t really bother about how these ‘strangers’ will make use of our giveaways. Even if they cash out, it is their choice – making use of the resources available to them. Again, we have a choice to preloved them – but it might be too tedious for me to handle at this moment. I love being stress free from handling other things (I have enough stress from my three girls! 🙄)
Weather is pretty cold. So I let them bath in the smaller bath tub (I even have to boil water twice for each person for the water to be warm enough); which means one at a time as we have one baby bath tub!
Yesterday Noelle wanted to be the first one to bath. To avoid an issue, she bath first but that also means she has to come out from the bath tub as soon as possible. She did make a fuss – but I told her “there’s trade offs in this world. You can’t have the best of all. This is the perfect example. You can go first but you play for a short while only; while mei mei goes second, she gets to play longer!” 😐😐
This morning Noelle volunteers to be number 2 (because she wants to play longer)! She understands the concept very well now!
I am a hoarder for books! 🙄🙄😂😂 So I ‘overcome’ myself by FINALLY giving away my university books to three recipients this week:
– one for the niece who is studying economics in Nottingham university
– one for voluntary teaching
– one for self development
We also gave away three new unused laptop bags to a man and a lady!
I am happy to have join this community ‘Beli Nothing Project (Malaysia); we do have many generous/charitable people around!
Actually I am very inspired by Rachael Kwacz’s advent kindness project that she did with Ella Grace in December 2017. The giving to strangers (I.e. paying the bill for a meal) really impressed me a lot!
So, I am helping/teaching our kids to give in our own way and capacity! Giving without expecting anything in return! Giving can be anytime too! So when we baked the cupcakes yesterday, I dropped Noelle at the guard house to give some cupcakes to our security guards – thanking them for looking after our place!
We can create our legacy in our own way…..
All of us ran errand together almost the whole day today – only to arrive home around 4+. I was busy putting Norrah to sleep while Nikki was fussing around because she was about to poop. Hubby was in ‘dying’ hunger while he need to juggle with handling Nikki.
Noelle, on the other hand, was ‘screaming’ to ask either hubby or I to play with her puzzles. I was stuck in bed with nursing Norrah and getting agitated with Noelle’s cries! 😒 While hubby went to wash Nikki, Norrah finally let go me. I walked out of the room and Noelle was still with her ‘demand to play with her’! 😒
I just told her off ‘I need to cook dinner now! 😤😡’ Immediate silence and I walked off. Then I went back to her and told her ‘this house is not just about YOU. 😠 Everyone has their own things to do! And since you can play (fix) the puzzles YOURSELF, why can’t you do it yourself?! 😡’
After completing what I said, I just went into the kitchen to cook. I actually expected her to cry but she didn’t – instead she sat there alone, doing her puzzles. Even after hubby came out from cleaning Nikki, Noelle actually sat down alone to complete the puzzle.
We are happy that she is really internalizing what we tell her. And I got to admit that as she started going to school, I cherish every moment together with her more! On a daily basis, I do sit down and play with her more (trying to complete what I have to do while she is at school or all of them taking their nap). I nag or scold her less too! 🙄🙄 Nevertheless, she needs to know that she is not the diva at home (despite she will be a princess in our heart forever)!