Have faith in what you taught your kids

On the ‘waiting’ day, Noelle and poh poh were playing playdoh. Poh poh suggested that they make ‘donuts’ as pretend play. Noelle: ‘This is bad for health!’*
And during the wait, poh poh brought Noelle to 7-Eleven. Poh poh offered to buy Noelle stuff including ice cream. She rejected all of them and told poh poh she needs to ask mama’s permission first. True enough, yesterday after asking mama’s permission, she went down to 7-eleven again with poh poh to get her rainbow 🌈 paddle pop!*
^^this is also a measure that she doesn’t accept anything from ‘strangers’ – I was telling her how the ice cream van suck up the minions when the minions greedily took the free ice creams 🀣 (in the cartoon)
Also when she eats something like her paddle pop ice cream which Nikki is not allowed, she keeps reminding poh poh that Mei Mei cannot eat it! 
😁😁😁😁😁😁😁very proud of this big Jeh Jeh who can look after Mei Mei! 
After getting her Fluttershy pony, she told hubby ‘enough of ponies already, no need buy ponies already!’ – because Fluttershy is the ultimate pony that she has been wanting. She is definitely not a greedy kid!😊😊
And mama definitely cannot forget her excitement shown when she opened and found that the exchange gift was Fluttershy! No regrets for getting her that! 
* partly told by my mum to me

No.2 no longer a little baby!

8.5 months may be short for some – but definitely not for this 19m18d! 
In a short period of time, she has grew (and growing) leaps and bounds! She has achieved many milestones, which I don’t think her elder sister has at the same phase! 
8.5 months ago was also the point when she just turned one year old and when I found I was pregnant 🀰! She was still a heavily nursing toddler who refused most of her solid! But definitely not now. She can go without nursing, eating her solid/real food well, handle her cutleries well and definitely an OCD when it comes to her own cleanliness on the dining table! She still doesn’t accept milk – formula or fresh milk (I don’t really bother as she eats well)! This definitely puts me off a lot of ‘worries’! 
While we still treat her the baby of the family, she is much more independent within this period! She is able to play herself, less clingy and able to part away from mama (and stick to papa). She also wants to make some decisions by herself – like wearing the kind of clothes! She is also kind of ‘fierce’ and knows her rights! This little girl even know how to bargain with mama – when mama says ‘one’ cookie is enough, she goes ‘two two’! She understands and can even speak more words during this period (a lot of influence by Noelle and our second time parenting actually helps – Noelle taught me how to communicate with toddlers – those days I was stone to herπŸ™„πŸ€£)! She really surprises us with the many words – and obviously the ‘clown’ of the family now! 
Not only she is already trained to poop on the potty (at 15mo), she showed many signs of readiness to pee in the potty. She can sleep through the night – and the thing that she surprised me yesterday is her ability to sleep with papa without looking for mama (though the first night she did but second night didn’t)! 
She shows many signs of readiness to accept a little baby at home -but let’s keep our finger cross – she is really ready! 😘
To my little Nikki, mama loves you always and I do miss hugging you to sleep yesterday😩! πŸ™„πŸ€£
Hubby: What you want now? πŸ˜’She doesn’t adapt, you sad. She adapts, you also sad! πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

Me: πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

Growing up together….

While Nikki enjoys imitating Jeh Jeh, one strong value she holds (compared to Jeh jeh) is being compassionate! 

This can be seen whenever Nikki takes fruits from the fridge – she will think of taking for Jeh Jeh also! Besides that, if she sees mama ‘punishing’ Jeh Jeh, she will actually cry out ‘Jeh Jeh’! 
She is such a ‘little sweetie pie’, a nick Noelle gave Nikki! πŸ˜‚
This is in constrast with Noelle – though we have been noticing some improvement on her being a caring towards her little sister! 
I think this is because Nikki grows up together (day and night) with Noelle since her first day; while Noelle only started living with Nikki on her 3rd year of life! 
Anyway, hope you both will continue to have many good times together! 😘😘😘😘

Trust your kid!

One’s heart may be trembling, thinking ‘will the soup spill?’ or ‘Aiyo why give her a ceramic bowl, what if it topples and break?’ 

Video <here>

Haha, that actually rang in my mind too (occasionally) but my gut feelings tell me to ‘trust your kid’! And I am seriously proud of her! ☺️☺️☺️
A 18m12d displaying a lot of self independence lately – she scolds me if I try feeding her! πŸ˜’
Dinner: basmati rice + stir fry pork with ginger and black fungus + radish soup

Jeh Jeh had the same too ! 

Lunch was just pasta with radish soup:

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The elder added cheese on it!

Stay humble, be kind and work hard

Never feel bad for not being able to provide the best for your kids, as long as you have done your very best. Many successful (and humble) people are born through their experience with life imperfections. Teach them to work for what they want. Not all things should be easily given. It has no/less value that way. 
Many a times when money/things come easily and effortlessly, it tends to build ‘ugly’ personality and arrogance (this is usually reflected by the words spoken, as they grow). Suppose your kids could gain everything in the whole world and lost their ‘soul’, was it worth it? 
Wishlist of parents to kids (at least for us): stay humble, be kind and work hard

Baby no2 turns 18 month old

My baby turns 18 month old today and this marks my 18 months + 3 years (her sister turns 4y18 today) of breastfeeding! The journey will definitely prolong as I am currently into my 31 weeks of pregnancy.
When I first found myself pregnant with no. 3 right after my 18mo turned 1 year old, my first concern is the breastfeeding journey with her (no2)! As per my first experience with the eldest, breastfeeding during pregnancy isn’t easy. Further more, initially I thought my no2 has less ability to ‘comprehend’ the ‘pain’ (nipple sensitivity plus I have morning sickness since day 1 until now) that I go thorough while nursing her.
After all these months, I would confirm that babies – no matter how old – has the ability to read mama’s cues. For example, when I say ‘enough’ – she is willing to let off the boobs. Plus, as time goes by, she has the ability to soothe herself to sleep without sucking my nipples (she doesn’t use dummy too) – she just need me to hug her! Her appetite (for solid) improved a lot thereafter – she isn’t supplemented with any other milk (she refuses fresh milk actually). In fact, she has been starting to sleep through the night in the past two months! She only asks for the boobs when she wants to sleep or too upset or just to ‘manja’. 
It is an incredible and different breastfeeding journey with no2 compared to no1 (who was more demanding at the same age). And now I wonder how the breastfeeding journey with no3 would be πŸ€”.
From my own experience, breastfeeding during pregnancy is possible – the key is to understand your own body (my Gynae didn’t really agree with me, but I decide not to tell him – after all it is between me (my body) and my baby)! Second trimester may be more difficult as it is sort of dry nursing. But as I enter into third trimester, I could see colostrum coming in – and it gets my no2 hook on it longer lately! The sensitivity of the nipples reduced now (compared to second trimester – or maybe I am getting used to it). As I went thorough this, one of the things I could do to reduce the pain from nipple sensitivity during nursing – it is to close my eyes and meditate; or focus my mind on something else (so during this period of time, I did a lot of thinking – in fact, too much πŸ˜‚πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈ).
Hopefully no2 will be able to reach her two years milestones – and by then, it would mean ‘tandem nursing’. I am not going to put pressure on myself or her but allow her to decide if she still wants to nurse or wean off naturally when no3 arrives! 
* I am also grateful that my no1 has been a good girl and being independent around home when I have to spend time nursing no2! 

Saying ‘no’ to your child

Great excerpt from the book I read during our Raya break:
“The child who always cries ‘I want’ and gets it rarely feels he has enough.”

Book title: Why it’s important for you and your child saying no

Author: Asha Phillips 

Like most other parents, we do come to wit ends of kids’ unrealistic/unlimited wants – especially the one who is approaching 5 this year. ‘Giving in’ to her screams and cries is definitely ‘easier’ compared to swallowing the embarrassment she caused us especially in front of outsiders – but what would she/they learn from this? Bullying, exactly – how the author has put it! 
Sometimes we have to just be firm with our decisions, don’t bother what others think (not in a position to win best popularity parents), saying ‘no’ when necessary, figuring other choices (make them think) and most importantly, be kind to ourselves! 
Remember that the way we raise our kids will have an impact on how they participate in the society in the future! 
Note: Parent your way and I am not commenting about anyone. It is just my views.