‘Signing off’ for the LAST jab from Klinik Kesihatan!

We arrived before 7am and got number 2!🙄🙄 (kiasu maaa🤣🤣 no la 😒😒 I need to shorten waiting time so that papa can go work earlier k?😆) The clinic looked empty because they haven’t opened the main door for the orang-orang tua who were queuing outside.

So we waited for an hour plus before the real queue for weight check and nurse begin.All settled before 845am. Weight and height check weren’t accurate because Norrah was moving a lot and also wailing! 🙄🙄 Nurse didn’t really care since it would be the last jab (and our last visit🤭 though they did give us a date for check up!)

Norrah in her super active mode despite waking up at 5am this morning!😒 (and Nikki also woke 5sth today 🤦🏻‍♀️) Fortunately I didn’t put her in shoes or else she will run around (I just struggle carrying her – and thus I have been tickling her to stop her😒).

>> putting both Norrah and Nikki for early morning nap before starting ‘fire’ in the kitchen!

CNY eve! Bai bai to the dog 🐶 year – it has been a year of growth!

Our reunion lunch today:

Salad loh sang

Braised pork belly with sea cucumber, mushroom and fish maw

Sliced abalone with stir fry broccoli

Lotus root and arrow row chicken soup

This year the girls helped around – especially with the salad loh song! Happy that they are partaking!

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Traditions are ‘man created’ based on their own expectations and beliefs. As time evolves, these expectations and beliefs have also changed. One cannot expect everything to be the same like it used to be. Why do we need to get ourselves stuck doing something that we are not happy about just because it is ‘tradition’? Preserve those traditions that you are comfortable be and re-create new ones that suit the ones around us especially ourselves. Most importantly, do not impose those traditions that you yourself can’t follow onto your kids and worse, other people’s kids! Also, what is ‘best’ for yourself might not necessarily good for your loved ones!

Happy reunion lunch/dinner! 😁😁😁

Saying ‘no’ and walking away

Do you know how devastating it is for a kid when their ‘best’ friend says ‘I don’t want to friend you’?

But this also leads us to a good lesson in the month of January 2019.

A week or two ago, Noelle’s bff (let’s name her W) started ‘asking’ money from Noelle to buy candies! 🙄 Noelle gave in to her – as she didn’t want to lose her friend. W actually said that ‘I don’t want to friend you if you don’t give me money!’ So, for three days, Noelle gave her 50 sen (first day without me knowing until I found out; second and third day because of the statement)!

Though we always taught her to be kind, this form of kindness has been abused. We told her that if W hasn’t have money to buy food like bun or rice, it is ok to ‘borrow’ her money; but not the case if she wants to buy candies Also, W also broke promises – as she told Noelle that she will return her RM1 the next day if Noelle gives her another 50sen.

In relating to us the incident, Noelle was actually in near tears; not because of the money but her friendship.

But we know that this has to stop. It is easier if we choose to approach the kid in school (during recess) or meet up the class teacher or speaking to the bff’s parents (a separate story – I wasn’t in the class WhatsApp group – but went to the extent of getting in after this incident).

We chose to let Noelle handle the situation herself – as she needs to learn how to say ‘no’! This is a stepping stone to not getting into peer pressure (what if in the future she is being asked to buy drugs? She needs to say ‘no’ too!) We will not always be there to assist her especially when she grows older. If we can stop this friend, what if there’s another friend like W?

Besides rejecting her friend’s request by saying ‘no’, we told her to say ‘ok’ and walk away when W says ‘I don’t want to friend you.’ Noelle needed a lot of courage to do so! Aside from constantly reminding her verbally, we also practice it by staging the situation and I put reminders into her recess box!

A lot of relief on my side when she first told me that she said ‘no’ and walked away (I tried not questioning her until she tells me). She related to us that after saying ‘no’ and walking away, W still talks to her. Bingo! So Noelle learnt that saying ‘no’ isn’t that difficult and W still ‘friends’ her after all. I told her that if W really doesn’t friend her because Noelle doesn’t give her money, W will probably end up asking from another person – and if that person doesn’t give, W will ‘unfriend’ again – soon W doesn’t have any friend anymore!

Further than that, to ‘reward’ her bravery to saying ‘no’, we allowed her to spend part of her savings to get something she wants (over the weekend). We limited her to spending RM5 and told her that she could probably get something more expensive or more things if she hasn’t given some of her money to W. It is buying something she wants instead of what W wants. W has to use her own money (instead of Noelle’s) if she wants to buy what she wants.

Walking into this week, Noelle has rejected W requests consistently! Doing more than 3 times definitely means she has passed the phase (we will still remind her, for sure)!

> Still wondering if we should inform W’s parents – but I personally rather not (cos I very lazy to talk to them and don’t want Noelle get into a difficult situation facing the friend). Up till today, W is still asking Noelle for money despite the numerous ‘no’s.

>> Parenting gone another level higher; but I foresee that more challenging phases are ahead.

>>>> thanks for the listening ears as I went through this phase

Enjoy the perks of saving

It has been four weeks since we started giving her pocket money. She did use her money to buy massimo buns few times, but the rest (most of them) she saved up in her piggy bank. We told her that she is saving for long term goals like holiday and her aim of going to the coin machine again to bank in coins. But as a kid, it would be difficult to visualise ‘long term’! Sooooooo longgggg???

Since yesterday she managed to overcome her fear on a situation and done us proud, we allowed her to enjoy her perks of saving. We told her she can use not more than RM5 to get something from Mr DIY. I too realise that she actually enjoys making payments herself, especially using her own money.

Handling social situations without mama

Today’s homework about ‘friends’ 🙄

To my Dear Noelle,

I have taught you to be KIND to your friends. But as we ‘grow’ together, I realise it is much more complicated than this! 😓I came to realise that you have to face certain social situations that are difficult (relates to ‘friends’). You may not response in ‘my bestest’ expectations and I would have ‘reprimanded’ you😞 – because it is just my mama instinct to ‘protect’ you.

I am re-evaluating myself. I hope to give you more suggestions on ways to approach those situations, rather than just one approach (which I perceive to be ‘correct’). I shall reduce my ‘what you should’ve done’ but shall ask ‘how comfortable do you feel doing that’. I will continue to let you handle your own interaction.

Thank you for being honest to me! I still wish to listen from you.

😘😘

GREEN is her ‘new’ colour. She’s in green house (for sports); not like it is her favourite colour nor her choice! 🙄🤣 I saw her great disappointment when told that she’s in green house. But ya, life is not perfect; we can’t get all our top likings all the time!

Anyway, we finally settled her with another black shoes – it is Velcro typed (the H&M socks is okay, but she still complains that her feet is hot and sweaty). Then, it wasn’t easy to find her size (and the type – Velcro- we want) – we went around places to look for it! 😵🙄

Hope that this will end her ‘suffering’ – 😒😒 happy only get new shoes! Told her the other pair is for ‘emergency’ when this shoe gets dirty/wet.

Bidding goodbye to 2018

Our last outing in the year 2018: to buy baking ingredients

I have no time to write review for the year (plus bad memory) and hence thankful that I usually jot down what I do with the kids on a daily basis!

BUT 2018 is THE year that I really felt motherhood gone a level higher! I did so many things with them and for them. I have a love-and-go-nuts feeling handling the three girls (most of the time alone). They are also my best companions. They give me strength to do what I once doubt myself! They give me courage to say ‘no’ to things I don’t enjoy doing (because time is so limited)!

Thanks also to our breadwinner for supporting our living; giving me a lot of flexibility in making decisions for the girls (don’t know good or bad🤭🤣). As Noelle says to him – ‘continue to go work, so that we can go holiday! 😂’

Moving forward, I think I will be super busy😵, super emo? 🤭But for the girls, I will continue to be a ‘super’ mum! 😘

Happy 6th and 3rd birthday to my girls!

To the ‘twin’ sisters of different year

Happy 6th birthday to our firstborn!

2018 is a year of milestones for our big jeh jeh! You have grown up so much this year – proven to us that you can be so independent and ‘testify’ a lot of our parenting styles that we have been practising (for these six years)! You have been a GREAT jeh jeh too!

Hope you will grow up happy and healthy. Wishing you a great year ahead as you officially start your primary school life in few days time! 😘😘😘😘

We are really happy to parent you, our darling girl!

Happy 3rd birthday to our second born!

My best companion for year of 2018 – the little chatter box! To me, she is like four years old! 🤭🤣 Nikki picks up things very quickly and definitely ‘tests’ me more than her jeh jeh. She’s just a little version of mama! 🤭😝

She too has a lot of milestones this year – namely going diaperless (day and night). She has a great memory span. Our little girl has also sort of weaned off from breastfeeding just before she turns 3 years old (bitter and sweet experience)! The small jeh jeh has also done her duty as a big sister!

Moving forward, we will spend more time together as jeh jeh goes school. We will try to understand each other more, k? 😘😝

>> Thanks ‘favourite’ Aunty for Nikki’s birthday suit this year! 😆

For their 6th and 3rd birthday, we decided to bring them to Parenthood Playland (our first time there despite our many visits to Sunway Pyramid)! We spent almost two hours there (we can actually re-enter after lunch but we decided not to)!

**We used to ‘fear’ entering such places – as they will go crazy and it is not cheap for entrance – but now they understand that only special days they get to go such playlands! 😁

Video of them enjoying at Parenthood Playland Sunway Pyramid <here>

28 Dec FB memories (yesterday) showed that I bake their/her birthday cakes almost every year! BUT this year (2018) I didn’t ! 🤭🤣 I told them I bake them cakes every week; so today we eat ‘outside’ cakes, k? 😆

They had Mille crepe cake in the afternoon and waffle (bear) ice cream at night! 😁😁

And this marks the end of our celebration for their 6th and 3rd birthdays! Back to your ‘peasants’ life ok? 🤭😝