It a ‘split second’ Norrah turns one month old! I would love to ‘document’ this as Norrah ‘should be’ our last kid! 😝
When we found that I was pregnant, we did went back to our previous gynae (who took care of Nikki’s delivery and I was ‘happy’ in the sense there wasn’t any hiccup in breastfeeding Nikki from birth). However, as Nikki’s birth was c-sec (which was my second c-sec and it has some complication – something called skin adhension), the gynae was totally convinced that I will need a c-sec. But I found his reason – quite unacceptable- in fear of uterine rupture! 🤔And that got my hubby panic – macam I will die anytime soon! 🤦🏻♀️The Gynae even recommended us to go for a ‘full fledge’ hospital (that is equipped with all specialists – just in case anything happen – I could be saved)! Until the explanation here, my hubby face pucat like wanna ‘faint’ already! 🙄🙄 Plus, there was a tremendous increase in the fee for c-sec in ‘that’ hospital!
So, we went for a second opinion. And choose a ‘full fledge’ hospital. I asked my ‘peng-yu’ nurse who previously worked at Sunway Medical to recommend me a breastfeeding friendly gynae. I was recommended Dr Jason Lim (then we went online to do some research- to convince ourselves). Well, Dr Jason ‘took’ my heart by his professionalism at first met (😂sounds like first love) but of course, his consultation fees are not cheap! He did give us choice that we ‘can’ try natural and c-sec BUT the reason he gave for the choice of c-sec – if there’s unsuccessful natural birth (which no one could guarantee), there will be a risk on both baby and mummy’s life – because nobody knows if the skin adhension in there has healed until it is open up; so if there’s a need for emergency c-sec, the dr may need to release the old skin adhension – which will require additional time to do so (during that ‘time’ anything could happen)! My hubby actually ‘plead’ that I took c-sec after that explanation by Dr Jason. And so, decision was made – though it is a matter of fact, I would never get to try natural birth! I don’t know if this is comfort words or what – but many have told me – it doesn’t matter how baby is delivered, what matter is everyone is ‘safe’!🙄 so, I accepted the ‘fact’!
But anyway, time flies in that 9-10 months despite all the suffering morning sickness! We were more ‘slack’ this time round – so many things running – handling the kids plus hubby was in the midst of changing job too! In fact, he missed visiting the gynae with me twice this time – because of Noelle’s musical performance and also ‘traffic’. And we actually skipped the last week gynae visit because there wasn’t a Saturday slot! I missed my last period and so Norrah’s due date was sort of estimated – which was 1 Sept! And to do a c-sec, it has to be like two weeks earlier! So, the ‘date’ was chosen – I have no issue with what date to choose but the hubby ‘desperately’ want the same birthday! It was that date then! (Not sure if Norrah’s going to enjoy that she shares a same birthday as mama when she grows up🙄)
The day came – and I went to the delivery room and operation theatre by myself, as per Nikki’s as hubby has to look after the two. I could say that I was brave but ‘scared’ at the same time – but I have to brace the feeling thoroughly, especially a longer waiting time when Dr Jason has to perform a emergency c-sec right before me!
During c-sec, I think I dose off few times (😂too tired of waiting – and it actually really took sometime for the Gynae to release the skin adhension)! The moment Norrah was out, Dr Jason actually lifted her to the air to show me and shouted out ‘congratulations! Your baby girl’.
Bla bla bla…I was sent back to the room; starting to feel the ‘chill’ (which I totally didn’t so during Nikki’s) and the gradual incoming pain (which didn’t so during both Noelle and Nikki) – to realise that I wasn’t put on pain killer drip! I didn’t request to and thought I could hold the ‘pain’ until 3 hours later; I then asked for it and it only came one hour later🙄(and ‘that’ nurse mistakenly pressed on my stomach when poking my butt – which increased the intensity of pain)! So the four hours was the most dreadfully pain (it was in between pain and chill) hours in the past years/decade – I ‘told’ myself that I will not going through ‘that’ kind of pain anymore and Norrah will definitely be our last kid! 🤣
The ‘pain’ has taken away my determination to move around (my determination to get up was better during Nikki’s as the Dr actually gradually reduced the pain killer drips rather than not giving the drip at all) until my friend who came to visit the next day – reminded me that I previously told her that the more frequent I move, the quicker I could heal! That gave me the morning slap – and so ‘almighty’ power in me – die or do, just do it! So, I manage to move around (plus the crucial ‘fart’ which happened at 1.10am 😂 for a remembrance) and convinced Dr Jason that I can go home a day earlier! So, balik rumah……etc!
Anyway, finally back to Norrah 🤣 she has been thriving on breastmilk (we didn’t weigh her but we know she has put on weight – by her size), sleep well and a ‘good’ baby so far! She laughs quite often during her dreams after day 20. We are still with our attachment parenting – she sleeps well in the cot by herself with the swaddle during day and mama hugs her to sleep at night (I am again handful during bedtime as Nikki and Norrah are at both of my sides)! Norrah does have her fussy time – when she needs cuddling most (so far I identified it as between 5-8pm)!
Days weren’t long in this one month; in fact I find time running too fast when handling three at one time! I just find myself running around in between living room and kitchen; eating, marathon nursing, changing diapers, bathing and entertaining the kids! It become so handful that sometimes I don’t bother looking at my phone when I have a short eating break by myself! I usually chat with some friends during my breaks – but increasingly find myself too tired to do so!
The little ‘cheat’ breaks we took by getting out of the house – really gave some peace of mind (we just don’t expose our ‘activities’ to those who will have a lot of negative comments 😝)! No say, no hear -> peaceful mind! Even if ‘hear’, ignore!