I usually ‘talk’ about myself/my kids or share my experience, putting my thoughts on how/what/why I should react. I don’t relate other people’s situation and help ‘them’ make a judgment call or expect how they should react.
My ‘thoughts’ are based on my own experiences. And my thoughts wouldn’t bother how someone feels – since everyone feels differently. Sorry to say – I am not a mind reader. It would be impossible for me to ‘care’ everyone’s feelings – if I do – there will be nothing to share.