Focus on what you are doing. Just be confident with your own decisions. You yourself only know the actual reasons for the decisions made.
Don’t have to pinpoint others (even anonymously) openly – e.g. ‘so and so’ choice let to ‘like that’ consequences – because you get no where by doing so!
Everyone’s circumstance is different. Even if you made the exact same decision, conclusions could be different. Or different decisions could lead to similar conclusions.
Most importantly, don’t say others are judging you when you are busy judging others in someway (intentionally or not). Eliminate the need to make comparisons. It is also about letting go your own ego, deep down.