We don’t really follow the 3 days rule now. Just giving her what seems suitable – as long as fresh food and non processed! So she gets her first grape when her sister was having it tonight! Video <here>
Marinate minced pork with sesame oil, pepper and some dark soy sauce. Set aside for 10 minutes!
Stir fry onion and garlic in oil. Then cook the marinated minced pork and add button mushrooms. Once done, set aside.
In the hot pan, melt butter. Add in (all purpose) flour and stir. Then pour in fresh milk (and some water). Add some shredded cheese and let it come to a simmer. Add in cream cheese and stir in the cooked pork plus mushrooms. Let it come to a boil. If you want a thicker sauce, add some cornflour water.
We have been talking about this place ‘ages’ ago and contemplated to go during some holidays. Even today, we were still thinking if we can make it – thinking of the jam! 🙄 But at last, we made it. And it was smooth traffic.
Not very far actually (about one and half hour to Sekinchan) – get to read my book with both kids sitting/sleeping themselves until reaching the town when the baby wanted mama!
Not a very clean beach, but we were happy enough that it was windy and weather was good!
Today Noelle was invited to play in the playground by a parent. They were looking for ‘butterflies’ (which were fallen leaves poked into sticks).
Noelle was all good during the search for leaves and sticks – (but not when they get down to floor, grouping the leaves). And then the lady’s daughter was sobbing! 😱 I went over and ‘reminded’ Noelle to share – and the lady looked at me and said ‘yes, she is sharing’ plus overheard her telling the daughter to say out what she wants instead of crying. Noelle was busy poking leaves with the stick and she was the only one having the stick (so I lebih kurang know ‘must be Noelle la’🙄😪) So I tried my ‘very best’ to distract Noelle away…eventually she did went away to search for sticks.
Actually it is a mixed feelings whenever this happen – because we will never know how the other parent will react to Noelle’s behavior (especially unruly ones) during play. I am grateful for an understanding one today – after the play, I told Noelle to thank the Aunty for playing with her and the lady was still with all smiles!
While we may meet many parents, not all can ‘click’ (not even if we are related). Not saying who’s right or wrong (because there are different parenting ways and most parents are protective over their kids) but if we happen to bump into parents that could show some empathy – it is definitely a blessing!
So, be one that can empathize!
When one is SAHM, much of their time will be handling the kids, activities with them and housechores. And our main ‘entertainment’ is limited to facebook – especially mums who bf lying down and has nothing to do except staring at the wall! So, we or rather me, will spend quite some time writing down my thoughts and observations especially on my kids. It is also a record plus an update for people who genuinely want to know about our condition on a daily basis. I also share because facebook is a place to learn from one another. Yes, it is multiple posts a day sometimes (that’s my personal fb anyway).
And today I read a rather sarcastic post that have a ‘hard’ message (maybe siapa makan cili dia rasa pedas – because I felt it was saying me) – ‘some people spend their lives trying to justify how they are bringing up their child by posting multiple posts in a day’.
Well, sharing is called ‘justifying’ or show offs. And if we give comments/remarks that they don’t want to hear, this is called ‘judging’ (but usually I will just agree to disagree because we are learning from one another). Then might as well ‘close down’ your facebook – stay in your own world!
Nothing we do is going to be correct to everyone.
And if no one share, will we have new friendship or learning from one another?
Sometimes I just turn a blind eye for certain comments I read that may be pointing to me (/other people I know) directly or indirectly (here, there and every where) and wish these people will be happier after expressing their comments!
Yes, I am NOT blind; just turning myself blind! 😝
Lol! We didn’t plan for a second anniversary play date but it so happened on the day (after) we planned to take them out!
We were supposed to take a bus but we didn’t manage to get a ride on it (only if we waited another five minutes)! So, we just went for a train ride plus the supermarket trip. Unexpectedly, Noelle wanted to go to Funtopia this round – and so we went. They were having much fun together – playing hide-n-seek and running around. But ended up with a scene (not both of them; just Noelle with another kid) towards the end of the session – so mama ended up kind of upset (running in my mind thereafter)!
We went to the supermarket before having our lunch at the cafe! We took a longer train ride before returning home (as usual). They played in our home playground and at home for short moments before EZ and his mama made a move! Gladly, no scene between the playdates!
Both of them have grown up so much! Though they don’t meet often, from my observation EZ has fond memories of Noelle much more than Noelle towards EZ! (Noelle has more memories with Aunty Quiii, I guess!)
Beyond the kids, I have a great friendship with Quinnie for the past 2 years. From samseng exchange of gifts to lesbo who gives me surprises (sadly/happily, more often than my hubby 😂 So, she earned her ‘title’ lesbo), the lady who ‘nearly’ followed me into the labour room (she volunteered when I told her I am going to the labour room myself because my hubby will be looking after Noelle), the person who brings me extra food on and off (she is a familiar face in our condo area – she just need to wave to the guard to get in and one of the neighbours thought she has been bringing food for her ‘mother’) and most importantly listen to my rant – happy and sad – with an open mind, allows me to ‘sarcastically’ shoot her and accepting me for who I am without judging my past and why I behave as such! Hope our friendship is beyond these 2 years!
Each day when papa opens the door after a long day at work; she’s the first one who turns her head to look out at the door; sometimes waving both hands to papa and/or calling out ‘baba’!
When papa is taking his shower or baking ‘cake’ in the washroom, she will wait at the washroom door or in the room for papa (instead of playing in the living room). When papa is at sight, she just crawls to papa to ask for a hug. At times, she refuses mama’s hug after papa returns from work.
As time passes, she also allows mama to go out for a short while with Jeh Jeh (aka ‘we time’) by staying at home with papa! Her papa is her perfect cushion for a short nap!
^She is all good with papa until her time for nen nen!
We don’t expect Noelle to master all or any musical instruments – but we hope she gets the fun bit of the class which is more like a playgroup; the social side of being around the kids of her age (since she is still not attending school yet) plus some skills such as listening and following instructions. And the best part – when we attended the trial class – we found mama’s primary schoolmate and Noelle’s first playdate there! Lol!
She were initially with her ‘don’t want’ when told that she will be attending the class; but with much ‘persuasion’ (I told her that we need to go there sing do.re.mi to the teacher – to inform the teacher that Noelle has mastered it already) and ‘threat’ (‘never mind, you no need go! Mama going with Mei Mei!’🙄) – she actually showed some interest in the morning! Ok, so we went and she had fun! (So sometimes I am still thinking whether her ‘don’t want’ is genuine or not)!
Today’s little moment of hiccup – when she didn’t get the colour bell of her choice; she did make a fuss. Initially, I thought it was just a normal fuss but she cried out! I think I need to read more on helping her to deal with disappointment- when she doesn’t get what she wants!
Video of her in the music class <here>