Hubby received a call from a bank yesterday and it was from a branch near to where his sibling lives. He says that it is related to referring his ‘friend’ for a current account. From that point, I doubted it was this ‘friend’ but his sibling (which I am not in good terms with)! It was a ‘small’ matter but the fact that he did not tell the ‘truth’ bothers me a lot. I didn’t brought it up as I had a very tiring day plus I don’t want a confrontation in front of the kids!
I woke up today feeling deep grudge it me, expecting a badddd day! I fear I might take it out on the kids (like snapping them)! After he came back from his morning jog and prepared to eat his sandwich, he saw me look very down and asked what happened! I took chance by letting it out!
The first thing I said ‘you think I stupid ar? How many friends you have staying in that area? 😒😒😒 you think I duno is for who? If you can lie this behind my back, in the future, how I know you will sign something that liable the family? Or, you lied to cheat with other woman! It is the small things that builds up’ I added by giving him some examples/reality (within the extended family) that happened.
He admitted and apologize! And said that he wasn’t frank with me because he knows I will be unhappy – true enough, I will be unhappy but I rather he not lied!
Anyway, it was a small matter (as long the help does not liable the family or takes off the family time)!
**But I wonder how some people like to ‘proclaim’ that they have sooooo many friends, at the end of the day, still look for ‘us’ when help matters (only to them)!
The point is – like what i pointed out, speak out and find out when the matter is small. Plus, I feel much lighter after speaking out, at least I will have a great day ahead with my two girls!
Great day mummies!