It takes courage to be a HAPPY mum!


I used to dread certain events in life, for example Chinese New Year and Mother’s Day when it should be happy occasions, as I had to spend some time (even it could be only two hours) with a bunch of people – who I dread to be with. I would think of negative thoughts about them (days/ weeks before the actual day) like what they will do and say – whereby 99% it turns out to be like what I thought of! So, I ended up being sad and even feeling of hatred!

For this Mother’s Day; I made up my mind NOT to spend my time with them without even telling my hubby. I was waiting to reject him when he tells me about the plan. I didn’t even put any expectation on the day (but just told myself it would be alright to just stay with the kids at home alone – at least I will have my two girls with me)!

I was rather surprised there WASN’T anything brought up to me (and I didn’t bother about whether hubby has made any contact to reject their invitation, if any)! I didn’t query him about it too! On the other hand, hubby asked what I would like to do and eat (though I could not deny that initially he might have a motive of wanting to celebrating it)!

At the end, I have one of the greatest Mother’s Day in these four years – though it was just like a normal weekend (that was my decision to spend like a normal weekend since Mother’s Day is sort of commercialized, for me). I should be grateful for each thing done by hubby – as I found out over some posts – many men only think that their mothers are only their mother and neglected the fact that their wives are actually mothering their children.

In fact, I would like to add that  – after most marriages, daughter in laws, many a times, take over the role of a “mother” from their mother in laws to look after their hubbies (sons of mother in law) – which mean mother in laws should actually appreciate their daughter in laws than expecting the other way round (well, just saying)!

My point: it is important to have a positive mindset,even though I am just a stay at home mum! Though some may think this is selfish, it is more important to take care of my own welfare/ feelings so that I could take care of my home/kids/hubby better in coming days/months/ years without resentment! To a certain extent, I am no longer a people pleaser!

*don’t have to judge me as not being filial or I will get my karma in the future because you don’t know what I have been through. Since last year, I have decided to love myself more – and I don’t have to satisfy people’s wants unnecessarily! Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate for my journey as mother so far! Moreover when my girls grow up and be mamas, I will definitely want them to have their me time on this special day!
Anyway I did wish my mum and she was happy enough!

On the lighter note on how we “celebrated” yesterday:

Hubby: You want western food, jap…or what for Mother’s Day lunch?
Me: Bak Kut Teh!!!😂😂😂😂

So we settled for the nearest, less crowded and of course less tasty bak kut teh 🙄 – served fast and ate fast! Done in 30 minutes with very obedient Noelle but slight cranky Nikki!

Satisfied though no where near to Klang Bak Kut Teh!😝😝😝

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Ini macam Father’s Day! But they made me become a mother! 😘😘 love you all!

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1. Sweet and sour chicken (sauce from scratch)
2. Stir fry nai pak with garlic

Celine Tan's photo.
Celine Tan's photo.


2 thoughts on “It takes courage to be a HAPPY mum!

  1. I hope my hubby will be like yours, don’t “force” me to celebrate any event with persons that don’t really appreciate my presence but make me unhappy. Yes, not all in-laws believe that their daughter-in-law is taking care of their son and their grandkids

  2. Hi, I’m really admiring/impressed with your post.It’s not easy to be a housewife. Responsibility is extremely high.Keep posting the new things. I felt bad as a working mom, I’m unable to cook at home. Salute to you for what you are doing right now.

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