In a blink of an eye, our 21 days with hubby is ending soon – tomorrow being the last day! This is a real long break for hubby before he moves to another job (and we can expect nooooo holiday until next year)!
It was time well spent in the 21 days and it was getting to know hubby (as a papa and hubby)! In fact, I felt the real difference with his positive mindset and objective oriented – which meant he enlisted the many, many things that we have to tick off EVERY single day! It would be a LIE if I tell you that I ENJOY every single day as it was real tiring – running in and out of the house maybe twice or thrice with two kids tagging along! At one point, I felt staying just at home can be more sane.🙄
*While in the midst of ticking off the tasks, we have to ensure that the kids were rested well – and so that running in and out of house
**We don’t have a reliable social circle to put our kids with. Even if so, we won’t because Nikki is just 5mo and she needs mama!
The objectives set weren’t solely for one individual but everyone in the household – which include a family trip to Phuket, Noelle’s play date with her pal, Nikki’s paed visit, hubby’s medical checks, mama’s banking activities, hubby’s property matters, our daily groceries, paying short visits to the elderlies, our pasar malam visits, air cond servicing, car servicing, car wash, book fair and etc. Surprisingly we spend the least time on shopping mall hopping this time around! 😅
In the midst of all these, I can’t deny that I snapped at hubby sometimes – more because he hasn’t really under the ‘standard procedure’ between me and the kids 🙄😝 and Noelle can just go ‘crazy and rebellion’ when he is around😒 plus he irritates me with his nonsense😝! Sometimes I do resent that he has the freedom to get away from home to attend social activities or just to buy stuff – while I have to stay home!
Beyond all these, I am still THANKFUL that he is around; where I could still get my less than 5 minutes bath myself (because Nikki is looking for me), the daily upkeep of Noelle is ‘well’ handed, he takes us out, we get to go on a holiday, and etc. Most importantly, we (as in hubby & I) get to know each other once again – since Nikki’s arrival!
I certainly know (by reading and observation) – put your marriage first to raise happy kids! While the kids tag along with us everywhere, we do try to squeeze in/ cheat some ‘we time’ – since the ‘we time’ is so limited, it has also become precious! And we certainly know that we will have many more years of ‘we time’ when the kids leave home for good!
As one of my friends has put it nicely before – ‘there’s no first in and first out when it comes to life and death’ – so spend the time with the persons matter most! I certainly have no regret if my life comes to a full stop anytime!