I know she is not a baby anymore – 27 months old, to be exact. She hasn’t even reach the mark of 3 years old where I could flex the rules more – in fact, I have been flexing some rules for her too – a slow adjustment to her and not a drastic one. I know the fact that this (providing home cooked during outings/holidays) can’t go on forever – but it has to be a transition plan.
While we eat out, she still does take home cooked that I packed. She doesn’t request from the table – except sometimes white rice, or if she sees sushi or bread, and of course, ice water. She knows which is her food and our food. We don’t bother to alter this routine yet, especially she has issues with her skin now. I even asked hubby if I need to pack food for our girl yesterday night (I was actually hesitating at first if my food goes into waste) since there would be sushi bar at our buffet – and he said ‘yes’. At the end, our girl still finish the food i prepared. Further more, when she is out there, she is more distracted with the surrounding and not really into her meals.
I know I have been repeating this many times. But, why do some people still see me as stopping our girl from enjoying meals outside (which she never asked for)? Why am I always seen as the villain who wants my girl to ‘suffer’?
While I packed her food, I never delay our “appointments” – I made effort to wake earlier or rush to pack – which never actually caused anyone to wait. The ‘trouble’ is not onto anyone but me/myself. I also ‘wish’ I don’t have to step into the kitchen for a day or two. So, why do they have so much to say?
Maybe most of the people around us are either foodies or in food business – they see meals outside greater than home cooked. Probably they never really evaluated the true health values of the food but just ‘tasty/very tasty’. Do they ever bother how some food contents do bad to young children? (I know DHM is not just about healthy food for kids, but any home cooked is definitely better than outside food). Or maybe, they like the ‘togetherness’ of everyone having the same meal – but as mentioned, our girl is still very much in her own world.
As always, many would say – just ignore/ one ear in and one ear out. But it is really annoying when someone is trying to stop a mama’s love for her daughter to provide home cooked. Motherhood is already tough; don’t add challenges to mummies’ life.
If you don’t/didn’t provide home cooked for your kids during weekends or outings, it is fine – but please don’t pester other mummies who do, to do as you do.