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It has been a month since I left my ex-company. I can’t be called unemployed as I am not actively looking for another job. I am now a full time stay-at-home-mum. Yes, that’s what I prefer to be called, instead of housewife.
So, how’s life been? Well, the first 3 weeks were honeymoon – as I had a week break myself, and then followed by two weeks break with hubby – of course, little 17chipmunks were with us then. Thereafter, I am totally independent handling her – now, for two weeks. So far, it has been good – but I would definitely say that this “job” requires a lot of EQ test. I need to remind myself to be “gentle” to little 17chipmunks; I need to remind myself that I am not going to use physical punishment as much as possible (since I am still traumatized with how physical punishment was meted on me during my younger days); I need to remind myself that it is not necessary to check on the do-list – I don’t have deadlines! The rush that I face now is – rush to do the dish, laundry or etc – before the toddler cries out for me. I rush to pee or poo – while she stares at me in or outside the toilet. My only me time now is after she finally calls it a day and if I am done with house chores.
But I do have enjoyable time with her. What I loved most is bringing her to the pool, playground and also some short grocery shopping visits. We enjoyed showering together. The most enjoyable part is when I was playing the tab and she was feeding me her snacks that I prepared for her. It was such a lovable scenario.
Financially, I have really slowed down on spending. I would think twice when I pick up each item – do we really need it? We have also been eating in more frequently – especially breakfast. Nevertheless, we got the second carseat again from Fabulous Mom for my car (well, the same level of service given for the first buy – just that there is no longer the RM10 discount this round) – using the collected angpau monies. Firstly, I am more comfortable driving my car. Secondly, the car seat can only be placed beside me in the car – which makes me more comfortable handling her cries. And, thirdly, in case of any emergency, I can always bring her to the doctor – without having to swap cars with hubby.
Sometimes I do ponder if my decision to be a stay–at-home-mum is correct – I am more fearful on the financial wise. I have thought of venturing into small little business – such as nanny service, driving kids to school and so forth. But we think – it is best to set aside such thoughts for the time being while I continue to settle down with my little 17chipmunks. At this point of time, she needs me the most.
Similar to one of the most common comments when I decided to breastfeed, the most common comments when I decided to be a stay-at-home-mum: Later she will cling on you & she will not want anyone else to take care of her. So what if she clings on me, isn’t she my baby who needs mummy the most now?