We got the idea of writing a birth plan from Gina Yong’s breastfeeding class. So, there, we sat down and wrote:
I’d like my husband to be present during labor and delivery.
HOSPITAL ADMISSIONS AND PROCEDURES
I’d like the option of returning home if I’m not in active labor.
ONCE I’M ADMITTED, I’D LIKE:
- my husband to be allowed to stay with me at all times
- to eat if I wish to
- to try to stay hydrated by drinking clear fluids
- to walk and move around as I choose, if possible
- I plan to use pain relief
- My pain relief choice is epidural.
- When it’s time to push, I’d like to be coached on when to push and for how long.
- I’d like to try the following positions for pushing (and birth) – whatever feels right at the time
Vaginal birth, if possible
IF I HAVE A C-SECTION, I’D LIKE:
- my husband present at all times during the operation
- the baby to be given to my husband as soon as possible, if appropriate
- to breastfeed my baby as soon as possible
I’d like to take pictures and/or video during labor and delivery.
AFTER THE BIRTH OF YOUR BABY
- I want to hold my baby immediately
- I wish to breastfeed immediately
- Please do not wash the vernix caseosa from my baby’s skin
- My husband to cut the umbilical cord
CORD BLOOD BANKING
I’m planning to bank cord blood privately via CyroCord
AFTER DELIVERY, I’D LIKE:
- all newborn procedures to take place in my or my husband’s presence
- my husband to stay with the baby at all times if I can’t be there
- to stay in a private room
- We agree to all routine tests and examinations performed on our baby
- I plan to breastfeed exclusively
- I’d like my baby brought to me for feedings
- Do not offer my baby:
- sugar water
- a pacifier
- I would like assistance to help me establish a nursing routine before I leave the birthing facility
- In the event that my baby needs medical interventions, I would like to provide expressed breastmilk
I’d like to be discharged from the hospital with my baby as soon as possible.
We showed this to Dr Fatima upon reaching third trimester. She was rather surprised that we had a birth plan. There were many things that she could not agree. The followings were discussed and agreed upon:
- Once admitted, she will decide on whether I could eat, drink and move around.
- Whether or not pain relief will be needed, depends on the opening size of the cervix.
- Holding the baby immediately and breastfeeding immediately upon delivery is not possible because baby needed to be handed to the pediatrician.
- No camera is allowed in the labour room/ operating theatre.
- Hubby is not allowed to cut the umbilical cord.
- She said that the vernix caseosa is not washed immediately especially during delivery at night as it will keep the baby warm.
- She agreed on breastfeeding but she could not agreed that baby will not be offered formula milk – especially during the first few hours when milk supply has not come in.
Well, certainly we weren’t too pleased by all the rejected requests. But being first time parents and being familiar with the gynae, we decided to proceed.
At the end, I guess we had no regret. I am still very pleased that hubby got to witness the birth of little 17chipmunks.